Love, Risks, and Taylor Swift
Who hasn't heard of Taylor Swift at this point? Who isn't a fan? I know I am. I thought it would be fun to talk about an uncomfortable subject with her help! Taylor Swift's music has been a guide for many, echoing the joys and pitfalls of love. Yet, amidst the melodies and poetic lyrics, there's an unspoken reality—she can help us talk about the decision to open ourselves up to love and sex. Let's talk about the world of intimacy which leads us to vulnerability, using the help of Taylor Swift's own words.
"State of Grace": The Allure of Passion
"This is the golden age of something good and right and real."
Swift's words capture the initial magic of a relationship. Which is real and can be a very strong feeling. However, passion should be accompanied by responsibility. Pursue your passion, however, keep in mind unprotected sex may seem like an extension of this "golden age," but it comes with potential consequences that need careful consideration.
"Blank Space": The Art of Consequences
"Got a long list of ex-lovers, they'll tell you I'm insane."
While Swift's lyrics may hint at the tumultuous nature of past relationships, they also highlight the importance of learning from the past. Let me help you, trust no one. Just kidding. You should be able to develop a level of trust with your sexual partner, of course, but always protect yourself. Be “insane” and ask them for STI testing prior to unprotected sex, or simply have them use a condom. It isn't just STI's we are worried about, we also don't want unintended pregnancies. These unwanted consequences can be challenging even the most resilient of hearts.
"Delicate": The Fragility of Trust
"Is it cool that I said all that? Is it too soon to do this yet?"
Trust is delicate, and engaging in unprotected sex requires open communication. Swift's questions reflect the uncertainty that often surrounds such intimate moments, emphasizing the need for mutual consent and shared responsibility. Having sex, in general, is something everyone should think about prior to engaging. It is an emotional and physical connection that is hard, if not impossible, to forget once it’s been committed. Make sure you are the one making the decision, never let anyone pressure you into having sex, ever.
"Love Story": The Fantasy vs. Reality
"It's a love story, baby just say yes."
Another lyric that so easily can address having consensual sex. It romanticizes the idea of love overcoming all obstacles. Saying "yes" requires acknowledging potential risks and making informed choices together.
"The Archer": Vulnerability and Self-Reflection
"All of my heroes die all alone."
Swift's introspective lyrics remind us of the vulnerability inherent in human connections. Unprotected sex requires self-reflection, acknowledging personal boundaries, and understanding the potential impact on one's life. Being alone is better than doing something you are uncomfortable with.
Taylor Swift's discography weaves tales of love, heartbreak, and self-discovery. In the realm of unprotected sex, her lyrics serve as a poetic reminder that while passion and connection are vital, responsible choices and open communication are equally crucial. As we navigate the intricacies of love, let Swift's words guide us toward a path of informed decisions and shared responsibility, creating a soundtrack that harmonizes with both the heart's desires and the mind's wisdom.
Come see us at Premier OBGYN to help you understand the risks and also help make sure you are healthy if you do engage in unprotected sex. We are a judgement free zone and here to answer all your questions and are here to help you through anything.